Mej Loza

This Week

Majority of my week has been field work and client calls. On top of that, it’s been a rainy week, good thing I have separate flats for when I visit muddy, and cement-laden sites. Anyway, I just use older, rattier shoes. On a brighter note, my side business did great this week, and I’m expecting a few more positive things during the remainder of this month.

When it comes to exercise, I was only able to squeeze in 3 short workouts this week, and it manifests on my tummy, which is getting bigger again, sadly. Plus, we were treated to Shangri La BGC, Fort dinner buffet by my in-laws on Thursday night, I’m not complaining though, the food and company were great. Also, I was secretly looking forward to that. 

Tuesday – Met clients in Starbucks. I rarely (uhm, never) do this, but did so as per their request. First time to meet with one of the clients because of referral, but so far so good. Crossing my fingers for future business.

I was also able to visit our house construction twice – the first one being, the day before the second floor’s cement-pouring and the day during the cement pouring. Good thing I was able to visualize where they would be putting the pipework for both the water and electrical for all the bedrooms and baths upstairs. The electrician was able to install cable pipes and cctv pipes even though they weren’t in the house plans. Good job!

Thursday, I went with R to Makati and just did some online work there. Also, the H&M skirt I mentioned in my previous post, I bought a back up because I really liked the quality and length. Dinner time was when we were treated to Shangri La BGC buffet by my sister-in-law. I wish I took pictures though. I was too busy choosing food and eating.

Friday, R worked at home. My parents invited us to lunch. I was also supposed to meet a client during lunch, but she couldn’t make it. Took R home, had a meeting then went back to the office to meet with another client. 

I was supposed to meet two clients on Saturday, but the other one cancelled. It’s fine though because I got to finish some work at home. Sunday, we went to SM Megamall and had breakfast in Jollibee. Lunch was spent doing a bit of work in Starbucks where R and I shared one triple soy latte. I just took a few sips to save some money, and I didn’t like the aftertaste. Anyway, internet was terrible there so a lot of time was spent idly. We attended mass with my in-laws and were then treated to early dinner in Pho Hoa. Bought a skirt on sale and a pair of pants for work (not on sale, and the ones I’m currently using are quite loose), both at H&M. 

Oh! And I finally finished The Girl With All the Gifts. It’s okay. I found the middle part a bit draggy, but I like how the story concluded. Anyway, I started The Widow by Fiona Barton last night. Haven’t gotten to the good parts yet though. 

How was your week?

Building Our Dream Home

Warning: TLDR

Way before R and I got married, we hoped of building our dream home someday. We were together for 9 years before we got married. I just graduated a month from university when we became a couple. Back then, I thought of purchasing a lot first, and someday, constructing our home, maybe sometime in our mid-40s. We liked looking at homes that we pass by and talking about the things we wanted inside a home. 

One time, around 5 years ago, I brought R to this 5-level model house, I loved that property. It was a glass house, that had a great view at the 4th level and an even more amazing view of the entire city and both Manila and Laguna de Bay, at the 5th level. Looking back, that 5-level house was beautiful, but now that we are currently renting a 3-storey house, and have lived here for over a year, quite honestly, there is no way we will be building a house with more than 2 floors. I think R has only gone to the 3rd floor, a total of 3 times since we moved here – and that was 13 months ago.

Some of the things in our dream home list included:

  • 3 bedrooms and an extra room for if we ever get help someday
  • A patio that would be attached to the dining area. This is where we can open the doors and just let the breeze come inside the house and othertimes where we would spend our lunch and dinners there, even have coffee over stories.
  • A small garden where we can plant fruit-beating trees or plants maybe.
  • A covered car park that can allot 3 cars because I dream on having an extra bigger vehicle for our future family someday (we both have our own cars).
  • All the bedrooms with their own bathrooms – yes, a girl can dream.
  • And, lastly, I personally love white and light grey homes and furniture, inspired by Scandinavian homes I often look at.

    But, we didn’t know our circumstances would lead us to where we are today.

    When we got married, R’s parents, my in-laws, kindly gifted us with a lot. It’s a beautiful lot located in the outskirts of Metro Manila. It’s a big lot – for us, where we can finally build our dream home someday. A two-story house would give it a view, not the view of the enire city or the bay, but a small view of the city and a of view of mountains. 

    I think I have told only one of my closest friends about this part and I’m excited to share our story here.

    To our surprise, weeks after we finally got married, my parents (who are both civil and geodetic engineers), encouraged us to finally prepare (financially) and build our dream home. My mom, in particular, said that they would appreciate that we do it soon (more like now!) while they were young (they are in their late 50s) and are still into construction because they are also planning to focus on other business ventures one day. And when that time comes, they won’t be able to help us out the same way they can now (whilst they have the manpower, suppliers, and connections in the construction business). 

    It was a bit of a shock to us as a newly-married couple. We didn’t think we could afford it. But when we finally got down to pooling our savings, my mom said that it was enough to start the construction, but that we should be able to come up with the rest when the house was finished. R and I finally decided to take a small housing loan and the rest is history – not!

    Right now we are still in the process of earning, scrimping, and saving all that we can to be able to come up with the remaining payment. The loan we got is not enough to pay for the balance. To be honest, it’s very tough on us because we are barely getting by on the income that we both have. People see us and think that everything is going great for us, and in a way it is, but at the same time, it’s also taking a toll on our relationship. We both decided that while the house is being constructed and while we have to finish the house payment, that we will not try and have children yet, because we won’t be able to afford it. We know that we are very lucky to be able to build our dream home at this age and this point in our life. My parents have waived their service fee, gave us so many discounts, and so many freebies such as additional steelwork support for the foundations and beams, on top of what is required by the city engineering (these are no longer necessary, but my dad wanted this for additional safety of R and I’s future home). My mom is already thinking of what bath tub we should purchase, but we are just aiming for the sturdiest and most affordable one, that is if we can afford it. We do pray (everyday) that we would be able to come up with enough money for the house, even though we know that we won’t be able to afford any furniture after the house is finished and that’s next year. It will be a beautiful house we are sure of that, it will be our dream home, but we just have to have faith that things will work out in the end.

    Anyway, enough of the drama. These are some photos of our future home. I’m so excited to share it because, even though talking about it makes us both happy and sad at the same time, we are proud that we are able to start building our dream home, all thanks to both our parents’ love, kindness, and generosity.

    I just want to end this with a quote from Jerellt‘s own house blog post:

    “Some may say, “Ang yabang naman neto!” Pero, kayabang-yabang naman siguro ‘tong achievement naming mag-asawa, ‘di ba? Dugo, pawis at luha ang pundasyon ng bahay namin!”

    Photos of the lot before construction began earlier this year:

    My parents looking for the muhon or boundary stone. This photo was taken earlier this year.

    My dad checking the soil because the lot is situated in a mountain. The white house behind him is on the ridge, overlooking Metro Manila. Our lot is a bit below that because it’s in the middle of part the subdivision. Safer, my parents think, from landslides if or when it happens. We hope never.

    My mom thinking about how the layout would be because a portion of the flooring would be way higher than the road. Luckily, the lots across ours don’t have houses yet, so we will still have a nice view in front.

    House Groundbreaking

    Just a little update from our house construction from a few months back. I love posting photos here because I don’t do it on my personal social media accounts. Here are some photos during the groundbreaking:

    My dad checking out the height of the road agains the house construction.

    View from one side of the lot showing some of our future neighbors’ houses. They probably built roofdecks to enjoy the panoramic view of the city and the mountains.

    My mom checking out one of the holes and giving instructions.

    Simple Dates


    Most weekends I have to go to work, and this day wasn’t an exception. But first, breakfast. We rarely eat out, but out of nowhere, R decided we have breakfast in McDonald’s. Pancakes, stories, and laughter ensued. A quick trip to the grocery for necessities. Afterwhich, R accompanied me to the office until lunch time. 

    We wanted to visit our house construction. Our future home is currently being constructed (more on this in my future post). We lined up for drive-thru fries and hurriedly went on to the site. We were so excited to see the second floor being prepped for cement pouring happening next week. There’s going to be a second floor next week! We can’t believe how time flies. By next year, it will be our home. 

    Small view of the city from our future home’s second floor 


    R and I woke up at 5:45am. We spent some time sharing silly stories, then I proceeded to prepare our breakfast (Pork in Soursoup) and espresso roast coffee (R’s personal favorite).

    Over breakfast conversation, I decided we visit UP Town Center Ayala Mall because we’ve never been. We cuddled Mico then left for the mall at 9:20am. We like getting to the mall at opening hours. 

    Time was spent walking around, strolling to check out the stores and restaurants. We were planning to get a shower curtain and I checked out H&M, they cost at least P1,000! No thanks. Luckily we ended up buying it in Metro Dept. Store for only P200. Just a plain white one.

    I treated R to Burger King and he treated me to Jamba Juice – only one of each. Oh, I did purchase 2 tops from H&M to add to my daily rotation – some of my current tops have become crappy looking, so these are the replacements. I also bought us some afternoon snacks – Banana Bread with Walnuts and Lemon Oatbars from ChiChi Pastries.

    We then headed home to watch The Manchurian Candidate followed by Clint Eastwood’s Unforgiven. 

    We’ll probably be in bed by 8:00pm tonight and be up tomorrow at 3:00am. Or maybe I’ll be catching up on The Girl With All the Gifts, which is taking me a while to finish, and fall asleep by 12midnight – I hope not!

    That was my simple weekend. How was yours? Hope you had a great weekend too.

    Inspiring Blog Posts #1

    Reading several blogs, I stumble across post that in their own way, touch me. I love reading blogs, especially local ones because I can personally relate to them. These are some of the olders posts that I have read and bookmarked, that I want to share with you too. These are the types of posts that I want to keep and read again from time to time. Short, but nevertheless, touching.

    The Beauty of Enough – Frugal Honey shows us how where we are exactly in the Fulfillment Curve. 

    A Love Letter to My 16-Year Old Self – Let’s just say that The Red Lippie Adventures made me cry while reading what she has gone through in life.

    How to Make It Under One Paycheck – Nouelle shares with us a glimpse of their life (and lovely home) with only her husband working. 

    The Four Year Wait: Our Battle with Infertility – Another post that made me cry. Jerellt narrates their struggles in conceiving. I’m sure a lot of women can relate to this, and share the same story – PCOS (Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome).

    Don’t Give Up On Irreconcilable Differences – Teach with Joy tells us (married couples) about how those little annoying differences never really go away and how to deal with them.

    Do you have favorite blog posts? Do share them.

    We Don’t Have Cable

    When I was living on my own, I didn’t get cable. I didn’t even have decent local channels because my previous condo didn’t allow an antenna outside the unit. So I made do with internet and my laptop.

    When R and I moved in to our rental, we decided that we will not be getting a cable connection. But we did buy an antenna which we attached to our 3rd floor’s terrace. We used to watch ANC in the morning during his previous shift (1pm-10pm). But now we sometimes watch local news at night, not always because it stresses the heck out of both of us. We just have an internet connection.

    R connected the tv, mac mini, and Kinect to the internet, bought a wireless keyboard and bluetooth mouse, and we download, stream, and watch movies and series in our tv – better than local channels to me!
    As we realized that we liked this setup, we decided that we won’t be getting cable for our future home. We’re just going to watch all our favorite shows and movies online.

    Mico and I watching Grey’s Anatomy’s previous season. There’s the wireless keyboard and bluetooth mouse on the wooden table. Our printer, also shown,  is also connected to the internet so we can print from any device at home (I’m proud because I couldn’t do those things myself haha!). R gifted us a two-seater recliner chair last Christmas for our movie and series marathons.

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