Mej Loza

Building Our Dream Home

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Way before R and I got married, we hoped of building our dream home someday. We were together for 9 years before we got married. I just graduated a month from university when we became a couple. Back then, I thought of purchasing a lot first, and someday, constructing our home, maybe sometime in our mid-40s. We liked looking at homes that we pass by and talking about the things we wanted inside a home. 

One time, around 5 years ago, I brought R to this 5-level model house, I loved that property. It was a glass house, that had a great view at the 4th level and an even more amazing view of the entire city and both Manila and Laguna de Bay, at the 5th level. Looking back, that 5-level house was beautiful, but now that we are currently renting a 3-storey house, and have lived here for over a year, quite honestly, there is no way we will be building a house with more than 2 floors. I think R has only gone to the 3rd floor, a total of 3 times since we moved here – and that was 13 months ago.

Some of the things in our dream home list included:

  • 3 bedrooms and an extra room for if we ever get help someday
  • A patio that would be attached to the dining area. This is where we can open the doors and just let the breeze come inside the house and othertimes where we would spend our lunch and dinners there, even have coffee over stories.
  • A small garden where we can plant fruit-beating trees or plants maybe.
  • A covered car park that can allot 3 cars because I dream on having an extra bigger vehicle for our future family someday (we both have our own cars).
  • All the bedrooms with their own bathrooms – yes, a girl can dream.
  • And, lastly, I personally love white and light grey homes and furniture, inspired by Scandinavian homes I often look at.

    But, we didn’t know our circumstances would lead us to where we are today.

    When we got married, R’s parents, my in-laws, kindly gifted us with a lot. It’s a beautiful lot located in the outskirts of Metro Manila. It’s a big lot – for us, where we can finally build our dream home someday. A two-story house would give it a view, not the view of the enire city or the bay, but a small view of the city and a of view of mountains. 

    I think I have told only one of my closest friends about this part and I’m excited to share our story here.

    To our surprise, weeks after we finally got married, my parents (who are both civil and geodetic engineers), encouraged us to finally prepare (financially) and build our dream home. My mom, in particular, said that they would appreciate that we do it soon (more like now!) while they were young (they are in their late 50s) and are still into construction because they are also planning to focus on other business ventures one day. And when that time comes, they won’t be able to help us out the same way they can now (whilst they have the manpower, suppliers, and connections in the construction business). 

    It was a bit of a shock to us as a newly-married couple. We didn’t think we could afford it. But when we finally got down to pooling our savings, my mom said that it was enough to start the construction, but that we should be able to come up with the rest when the house was finished. R and I finally decided to take a small housing loan and the rest is history – not!

    Right now we are still in the process of earning, scrimping, and saving all that we can to be able to come up with the remaining payment. The loan we got is not enough to pay for the balance. To be honest, it’s very tough on us because we are barely getting by on the income that we both have. People see us and think that everything is going great for us, and in a way it is, but at the same time, it’s also taking a toll on our relationship. We both decided that while the house is being constructed and while we have to finish the house payment, that we will not try and have children yet, because we won’t be able to afford it. We know that we are very lucky to be able to build our dream home at this age and this point in our life. My parents have waived their service fee, gave us so many discounts, and so many freebies such as additional steelwork support for the foundations and beams, on top of what is required by the city engineering (these are no longer necessary, but my dad wanted this for additional safety of R and I’s future home). My mom is already thinking of what bath tub we should purchase, but we are just aiming for the sturdiest and most affordable one, that is if we can afford it. We do pray (everyday) that we would be able to come up with enough money for the house, even though we know that we won’t be able to afford any furniture after the house is finished and that’s next year. It will be a beautiful house we are sure of that, it will be our dream home, but we just have to have faith that things will work out in the end.

    Anyway, enough of the drama. These are some photos of our future home. I’m so excited to share it because, even though talking about it makes us both happy and sad at the same time, we are proud that we are able to start building our dream home, all thanks to both our parents’ love, kindness, and generosity.

    I just want to end this with a quote from Jerellt‘s own house blog post:

    “Some may say, β€œAng yabang naman neto!” Pero, kayabang-yabang naman siguro β€˜tong achievement naming mag-asawa, β€˜di ba? Dugo, pawis at luha ang pundasyon ng bahay namin!”

    Photos of the lot before construction began earlier this year:


    My parents looking for the muhon or boundary stone. This photo was taken earlier this year.


    My dad checking the soil because the lot is situated in a mountain. The white house behind him is on the ridge, overlooking Metro Manila. Our lot is a bit below that because it’s in the middle of part the subdivision. Safer, my parents think, from landslides if or when it happens. We hope never.


    My mom thinking about how the layout would be because a portion of the flooring would be way higher than the road. Luckily, the lots across ours don’t have houses yet, so we will still have a nice view in front.

    About Mej

    Hi! I'm Mej and that little guy is my dog, Mico. I used to write post mostly about beauty and a long time ago, just fashion, but that's going to change. So I could post more often, I've finally decided to post anything that catches my fancy - be it beauty, fashion, interior and facade design, married life and life in general, career, and even finance. It felt limiting to write just up to three topics - beauty, travel, and health, especially now that I don't feel as passionate writing just about those three things. But that's all in the past now. Anyway, that's it for now. See you in my posts!

    4 thoughts on “Building Our Dream Home

    1. Hey!! I saw my blog on your blog roll. Hihihi.. *kilig*

      Anyway, ang saya naman that you are building your own dream house. And yes, lucky you kasi you have parents and inlaws who helped you out. Iba din yung alam ng parents mo ang ins and outs of building a house. Kasi isa sa mga reason why hindi kami dati kumuha ng house sa Cavite is because feeling ko substandard ang pagkakagawa nung bahay. Mura nga, eh kung isang ulan lang hulas na, wala din diba?

      Goodluck on this. Exciting times ahead.

      1. Hi sis! Oo naman I love reading your blog πŸ™‚ oo, mahirap talaga bumili and magpagawa house pag di kabisado construction. mejo onting background din ako sa construcrion so mejo nakakatulong. better kung may feedback na from the homeowners and about the developer para na din sa safety and security πŸ™‚ Thank you sis!

    2. Hi sis, nice naman! You are blessed kasi may mga parents kang super supportive sa pagbuild ng dream house nyong mag-asawa! Yung expenses wag mo na lang isipin yun kasi nakikita mo nman ang outcome e. I can’t wait na magpost ka ulit ng update ng dream house construction nyo. Hehe.

      1. Thank you sis Cindy πŸ™‚ Yes sis, swerte kasi supportive parents namin ni hubby, kahit hirap sa gastos, sobrang laki na ng naitulong nila, nakakagaan ng loob πŸ™‚ Naku ang parents ko may bago nanaman na dinagdag, natakot ako kasi di namin magasawa kaya ang additional payment, sila na daw bahala. πŸ˜€ haha

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